Many people believe that family ties are strong. I agree, however, if we want to keep them strong, its necessary to empathize and forgive each other. I had been curious why I felt stressed and exhausted during my visit to my parents’ house. I couldn’t find a suitable word to explain my feelings for a long time. I visited them this month and I finally found it.
I find it difficult to accept my parents’ style of communication. They often end up blaming each other for their shortcomings. Thus, I don’t want to hear my parents’ conversations. I always try to convince my mother to forgive my father’s faults and forget the bad memories but my attempts at persuasion always (3)fell through. I (1)fell behind on empathizing with her thoughts and behavior.
When my mother was 19 y/o, she met my father who was 29 y/o. My father (2-1)fell for my mother. They married, but their married life had lots of trouble because she had to live with his parents and sibling. She still hates her mother-in-law, who already passed away a long time ago.
She still complains how about irrational things asked by her mother-in-law. Her anger stems from my father’s failure to protect her. When I asked her what she wanted to do about it, she couldn’t find an answer. In my opinion, it wouldn’t suffice even if she demanded compensation for the physical and mental suffering. Her way does not heal her wounds.
I know I can’t save her from that kind of mental suffering because my giving advice would be like the (4)blind leading the blind. My father also avoids to undertake and take stock of his problems, mostly to the failure of his business. He also had a succession dispute with his sibling. He is too much optimistic that it is far from reality and does not solve the problem. I also know I can’t save him. My arguments were always futile.
Before the Revision
title: The difficulty of forgiveness.
Many people believe a family tied strong. I agree with it. However, if I want to continue to keep it, its necessary to empathy and forgive each other. I had been curious why I brought stress and exhausted during my visit to my parents’ house. I couldn’t find the suitable word of explaining my emotion for a long time. In this month, I visited them I finally found it.
I feel difficulty to accept my parents’ style of communication. They often end up blaming own partner’s shortcomings each other. Thus I don’t want to hear my parents’ conversations. I always try to convince my mother to forgive father’s faults and forget the bad old memory. but my persuade always (3)fell through her because it was (4)blind leading blind. I (1)fell behind to empathy for her thoughts and behavior.
When my mother 19 y/o, she met my father who was 29 y/o. My father (2-1)fell for my mother. They married but the marriage life had lots of trouble with her because she had to live with his parents and sibling. She still hates mother in law who already passed away for a long time ago.
She still complains how she got an irrational act from her mother in law. Her anger attacks also my father because he didn’t protect her. When I asked her what she wants to do, she couldn’t find an answer. In my opinion, If she demands compensation for her physical pain or mental suffering, expression of her way isn’t adequate. Her way does not heal her wounds.
However, I know I can’t save her from that kind of mental suffering because my advice is blind leading the blind. My father also avoids to directly undertaking an intensive his problems which his failure of the business. He also has trouble which is a dispute about succession with his sibling. He is too much optimism, It’s not realistic and not solve the problem. but I also know I can’t save him. My argument was always futile.
homework:
(1)fall behind: Fail to maintain a certain level.
(e.g.)”As a result of the accident she fell behind at school and had to study harder.”
(2)fall for:
(2-1)Fall in love, be infatuated.
(e.g.)”While on holiday she fell for a handsome young man.”
(2-2)Be deceived into believing something.
(e.g.)”Steve fell for the story about free tickets for the football match.”
(3)fall through: Fail; not happen.
(e.g.)”Our planned boat trip fell through because of the storm.”
(4)blind leading the blind: This expression describes a person with very little ability trying to help or guide a person with no ability.
(e.g.)Don’t ask Sofia to translate it. She hardly speaks a word of English herself. It would be the blind leading the blind.